He likes you.
You know he does. Your friends tell you he does. You're not imagining things.
Whenever you're together, he looks you in the eye and makes you feel like the only woman on earth. He's in tune with your favorite bands, loves the photographs you take, the poems you write. He's like no other man you've met before. You have so much in common.
Every time you go out together, it's the most magical night on earth. You sit at work replaying scenes between you. Your whole body lights up at the memory!
He's your soulmate.
But your nights together are few and between. He's a busy guy, has a demanding job, so you understand. He's popular, too, and has lots of friends, which is a good thing, right? He's well-liked.
You've made a good choice.
Except every now and then, you go on Facebook or some other networking site and see that he may be too busy to go out with you (or even drop you a line), but he's not too busy to talk to other people. He's exchanging jokes and generally having a great time.
You drop him a note: "Get together soon?"
And he writes back, "Yes, as soon as possible. I miss you!"
And you feel better. So much better. He misses you!
But then you go out with him, and you're in a crowd. You feel somewhat neglected because he's off talking to everybody in the place, except you. Everybody--guys and girls--think he's the greatest guy ever. People are lining up to do him favors.
Just when you think maybe you're crazy, that he doesn't like you as much as you hoped, he swoops in again. He gives you several hours of his full attention, and the cycle starts all over again:
-He's besotted--or he really, really seems to be
-You're absolutely besotted
-And then nothing happens
What's the deal here?
It's very possible you've fallen into the hands of a COLLECTOR, a guy who knows how to make every woman feel like the only woman in the galaxy. He's an egomaniac who gets off on having a flock of smitten female fans ("oh, but he's so tender and loving and vulnerable," you say!).
His sole aim is feel good about himself. Having a female following makes him feel like a rock star. Or a movie star. Or something else he isn't.
(Just to be fair here: There are plenty of women out there with this "complex," too.)
Thing is, you don't need it. You deserve a person who truly appreciates you for the special person you are, not for what you can do for his ego. Do yourself a favor and unplug yourself from this guy and his drama. Whenever his handsome face (and that dreamy look in his eye) float into your mind, banish them immediately.
You're disappointed, sure. But know you're not the first woman who's fallen prey to one of these phonies. Spend the next few weeks taking extra care of yourself. Talk to yourself as you would a beloved child. Treat yourself as a treasure that's yet to be discovered.
Good, healthy men respond strongly to women who love and care for themselves. You'll attract a better man before you know it.
Terry MacDonald is the happily married author of "How to Attract and Marry the Man of Your Dreams." Sign up for free dating tips at http://www.marrysmart.com - Check out her column on http://www.singlewomenrule.com
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