Eight Steps to Finding Love - The 2009 Dating Plan

New Year’s Eve is coming fast. You’ll blow the horns, make a few toasts and get streamers in your hair. It’ll be another New Year’s Party with no one you really want to kiss at midnight. No love to share it all with. Looking forward to that?

Well, you can change your love life by following a whole new dating plan for this coming year. You can make a resolution right now, right here as you read this article to find new love. At this moment your chances of meeting the love of your life could be better than ever! The average marriage now lasts under seven years and this means new singles are coming on the scene all the time. In fact, around sixteen million people are now using online dating in the U.S. You have a lot of partners to choose from.

So go on, make the affirmation. Something like, I create a new love that is just right for me. Here is an eight-step love advice action plan that can make your resolution a reality in 2009:

1. Prioritize Finding Love

Imagine if you didn’t have a job and needed money—looking for one would be your absolute top priority. You would spend hours posting and searching sites like monster.com; scanning the want ads; calling recruiters; asking your friends; and jumping on any leads.

In contrast, despite being alone, finding love ranks pretty low on your to do list. You come home from work, run errands, answer some emails, call your friends, play with the dog, watch your favorite show, and maybe spend 15 minutes browsing your online dating site. Most of you are better at planning your weekend or vacation than planning your dating life. If you are truthful with yourself, the activities associated with creating a relationship are nowhere near the top of your priority list.

Yet study after study has shown that relationships are treasured above all else when we reflect on what has meant the most in our lives. So make finding love a top priority.

2. Have A ‘New You’ Party

Order a bunch of pizzas or something simple like Chinese food. Invite all your friends to come over for a ‘New You’ party where they give you a ‘makeover.’ Have them go through your clothes and accessories, getting rid of unflattering stuff and putting together some hot new looks for you. Ask them for referrals to great hair salons or clothing shops. Find a look that makes you feel great.

Don’t feel like you are imposing—there is usually nothing that your friends like more than giving you advice! Of course, tell them you are looking to meet someone special and to keep you in mind. Email the same message to any other buddies who did not make the party.

3. Work Your Online Dating Program

Throw out your old photo and profile. Have a friend who is a good photographer, make that a great photographer, take 100 headshots of you in order to get one that looks especially warm, attractive and inviting. Get some opposite-sex friends to help you pick out the best photo and work on your profile. After you post them spend at least three hours a week looking around the site, sending and responding to messages and connecting by phone and in person with people. Block out time in your daily calendar to work the program.

4. Go Where the Odds are Better

Sign up for two on-going classes/activities that interest you that have lots of potential partners in them—for example: finance, investing and leadership at your local college’s School of Continuing and Professional Studies; rock-climbing and golfing; snowboarding/skiing; hiking; and wine tasting are great for meeting men. Women are plentiful at cooking, growth, spirituality or yoga courses. Coed city sports teams are great and usually have an even mix of genders. There are many other activities, classes and clubs to consider so search online on any topic plus the name of a major city near you. Or go to www.meetup.com and peruse their groups. Also, if you’re so inclined, look into volunteering for a local or national political group.

5. Meet New People

Find and say hello to three new men or women every day. Assuming you are in a safe or public place, make eye contact, smile, say ‘Hi,’ or ask for some help. This is what I call the Marcia Cross Technique. Actress Marcia Cross was in her forties when she met her husband by chatting with him in a flower shop. She now is the ecstatic mother of twin baby girls.

If you don’t encounter a lot of men or women in your daily routine, make sure to try a new grocery store, dry cleaners, pharmacy or coffee/sandwich shop at lunch. You can start with saying hello to the less threatening types and work your way up to the ones who are “out of your league.” You will be surprised how receptive the hotties can be!

6. Date Against Type

Most people do not find love with the type of person they imagine for themselves. The guy who only wants a petite blonde winds up with a brainy brunette. The woman who dates starving artists marries a rich, balding lawyer. Look at photos and profiles that you would ordinarily take a quick pass on. If you always go for the sleek metrosexual, give the Midwesterner who just moved to your town a try. If you go for the hotties, try someone who is has a heart of gold and maybe only a B+ on looks. Try and experiment. You may be very happily surprised!

7. Go For A Second Date

Even if you are not exactly blown away by a person at the first date, remember to stay open. You cannot know what secret goodies are hidden in someone just by meeting them once. You have to let a potential partner unfold and show you his/her different sides. If there is any connection with this person at all, give it another chance. Love almost always comes in a surprise package.

8. Open The Door

If you do meet someone and have a really good time, send a quick text or email the next morning to let the person know that the door is open to getting together again. This is especially important for women to do. Write something specific about the date that points to the connection between the two of you or refers to something you both loved. For example, if you went to a comedy show, write a message that refers to a particular joke you both enjoyed and add, “Let’s do it again sometime.”

Now you have your love resolution and plan. Most importantly commit to the first step and make this work Priority One in your life. Then follow the recommended program to create the love you want in the coming year. Chances are, by next New Year’s Eve you’ll be kissing the one you want. For the latest research on creating love that is just right for you read my new book, Love in 90 Days: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Own True Love.

Psychologist, Dr. Diana Kirschner, appeared on Oprah and is a frequent guest on the Today Show. For 25+ years she has helped thousands of single women find love. Her acclaimed new book is Love in 90 Days: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Own True Love. For her etips, blog, dating articles, daily affirmations & discussion forum visit http://www.lovein90days.com

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How to Get a Boyfriend in 7 Days – Guaranteed!

Sometimes when women have not had a male friend for a while, they begin to wonder what is wrong with them, why they can’t seem to meet that special guy. Well, here is a fool-proof strategy to get you a boyfriend within 7 days! You can relax in the knowledge that simply by following steps 1, 2 & 3 you will have your boyfriend before the week is through.

Please do take into consideration that some of these suggestions may require you to step out of your comfort zone just a little, but if you are serious about acquiring a boyfriend and follow these steps for just 7 days you will find a boyfriend. Stepping out of character can often be the catalyst that breaks the old mold and makes way for a new beginning.

1. Be Seen in the Right Places

For the next 7 days you must get out there and be seen. Not with a whole bunch of friends, but on your own. Take something interesting to read with you if you find the prospect of sitting alone daunting, but don’t sit engrossed in what you are reading, you must appear open and approachable. Look around and smile at anyone who catches your eye. Places full of people (men) are best, try bars, restaurants, cafes, sports games, the theatre or any you think of. To obtain the best results think about where the type of man you want to meet might frequent? Do you like guys who hang out at cafes, surfer dudes who hang out at the beach, tough guys who hang out at the gym, gentlemen who can be found at certain clubs, or guys who like to party you might find at bars. These are the places you want to be seen and you want to be sure to look your best. Dress attractively and go alone. Do this for at least 1 hour every day for the seven days.

2. Internet Dating

Sign up for a week’s trial at 3 different online dating agencies. Many give a 7 day free trial so this may not even cost you a penny. My recommendations to try are; Match.com, YahooPersonals.com and eHarmony.com. The reason for signing up at 3 is that you will have the widest selection of men to choose from. After registering, do a search for men you might be interested in, select 5 of them and send them an email. Every day for the next 7 days you must send at least 5 emails to 5 different men. I suggest widening your search options for the best results. You can even try extending your search to include ‘all countries’ you might find that you strike up a romance from across the sea.

Don’t sit back and wait for these guys to reply as some never will. By writing to 5 guys every day for the 7 days, that will be 35 guys in total, you will be guaranteed to find a boyfriend you like even with this strategy alone, but why stop there when you will find strategy 3 so enjoyable?

3. Activity Weekend

Having spent the week following Steps 1 & 2, you will already have plenty of guys to choose from, so this will be the cherry on the cake! Think about something you have always wanted to do, but have been too afraid to try like rock-climbing, skydiving, canoeing, abseiling, white-water rafting, go-kart racing, something adventurous and search out where you can take part in such activities. Do a search on the internet for ‘singles weekends’ and see what comes up. Get a hold of some brochures and find something that inspires you.

Adventure sports are a great way to expand your horizons, but if the outdoors is definitely not for you, there are other options like yoga weekends, health spas, walking or painting weekends. You find something that is of interest to you that you wouldn’t normally do, it must include at least 1 night away with a group, preferably 2 nights. Pack clothes that are comfortable, but that compliment your figure what ever size you might be. Clothes that make you feel sexy and attractive.

Just like that, you can be dating again, with plenty of men to choose from and on your way to discovering your very own Mr. Right. Good luck and have fun!

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Speed - The Straight Scoop on Scoring With Hot Girls

Do you know what the easiest way to attract more women REALLY is? Of course you don't...if you DID, you probably wouldn't be reading this, but rather trying to shoo away the boatload of babes who are pounding on your door right NOW. The simple truth is women are typically attracted at SUPER fast speed, and often imagine going home with a guy FAR faster than you realize. The key is figuring out EXACTLY what you need to attract her in the FIRST place, and then to speed UP the process of getting her back to your place, right?

The Three C's Rule for Attracting Beautiful Women

I've mentioned this MORE than once, and I'll do it again right here. The simple truth is that women CRAVE 3 simple, straightforward C's in their lives, AND in their men:

1. Confidence
2. Charisma
3. Creativity

If you can show you have LOTS of any of the three, you're going to be able to date OUT of your league in a hurry. If you've got 2 of them, you are IN for sure...and if you've got them all, you'll NEVER spend a Saturday night alone. But remember, they've got to be learned, and REAL, and practiced, to be effective. I'm not talking about "posing" here, I'm talking about natural and REAL qualities that light up a room like a candle at midnight in the Arizona desert.

Remember, no matter how hot she is, she wants the same things every OTHER woman does as well. To feel safe, attracted, excited, and EAGER to adventure with a guy who turns her on. Once you learn how to do this, you WILL be the guy that gets what he wants with beautiful women everywhere, that much I promise for sure!

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Approaching Women Without Fear of Rejection - 2 Simple Steps to Getting More Girls

Want to know the easiest way of approaching women WITHOUT fear of being turned down is actually quite simple. There are 3 MAJOR qualities that a woman looks for in a man, and that she can sense as you approach. Two of these are EASILY identified by just about ANY of us, and if you master how to show them off, will make you IMPERVIOUS to the fear and worry that hold MOST men back.

Ever hear a woman say she wants an insecure guy who keeps to himself and is an UN-ORIGINAL thinker? Of course you haven't...and any woman with options wants nothing to do with any of those qualities. Women love these 3 traits and look for them IMMEDIATELY when you walk up: Confidence, Charisma and Creativity.

You can show ALL 3 with immediate and effortless ease by SMILING when you approach. Don't think we notice? We do...and showing off those pearly whites is just about the BEST thing you can do to put yourself at ease...but her as well! Ever hear the phrase - "when you smile at the world the world smiles back?" Guess what? It's true...and ANY woman getting to know better will do EXACTLY that if the first thing she sees is a Tom Cruise style grin flashed her way from jump.

Other simple strategies to NEVER fear humiliation when approaching a beautiful woman?

Very, very simple: Believe in yourself. Be comfortable in your own skin.

It shows, shines through and rises ABOVE. A man who is comfortable in his own skin is VERY sexy, and very hard to resist. Remember guys, you DON'T have to believe all of the nonsense out there (mostly written by other guys) about being a pretentious player. ALL of that stuff is predicated on pretend, make believe and out right lying. That MIGHT work on girls that are desperate for a date...but NOT an effective way to get the kind of women you DESERVE, and want to have on your arm when you show up for the holidays.

And One Last thing...Remember:

Women admit that they would prefer a man who COMMUNICATES passionately during sex (which means she wants a little lusty dialog, they want you to learn the landscape a bit better ( understand her body) and they PREFER a man who is SUPREMELY confident and self assured.

You can INSTANTLY improve all three of these with JUST opening your awareness to the REAL secrets that women keep...and in my experience, the REWARDS for the men who go the extra mile are worth their weight in earth shaking ORGASMIC gold for ALL of us!

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How to Attract Cancer Women

In order to attract cancer women you must understand a bit about this zodiac sign. Cancer is a cardinal water sign characterized by its moody and sentimental behavior. Cancer women need emotions. They thrive on that!

To attract women cancer women you need to stimulate her emotions by starting a conversation that will get her emotional. This could be a conversation about her family, romantic stories, or talking about fond memories of her childhood. By talking about sentimental topics which arouse her emotions you will be able to attract cancer women. You should also try to frequently spend time with her, because the more she sees you the more comfortable she will be around you and it will be easier to start a conversation. You want to make her feel comfortable because cancer women tend to be more suspicious and guard their feelings more then others normally would. You will want to remember that when you are trying to gain the interest of a cancer woman. She will also be guarded about spending money, so try to avoid situations where the issue of payment comes up.

When it comes to physical looks cancer women are more attracted to tall Nordic types who look good in a suit. If you fit into this category your odds off attracting cancer women are above average but your looks are not the determining factor in attracting her. If you want to attract her, you will need to to do as mentioned above, show her that you are a sensitive person just like she is.

Cancer women are also sensitive to the environment they are around and will be responsive if the atmosphere and mood is right. If you and her are around good food, some candles, and the right music you will definitely be in a good position to win her over. Be careful not to tease her too much because she has sensitive feelings and you will likely end up hurting her. If you make this mistake you will likely not get another chance. These are some great methods to attract cancer women.

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Reasons Why Men Love Independent Women

Many reasons why a man attracted to a woman. First, mostly because of her looks, but after the looks, the second thing (this is the most important thing) is her personality. There is no doubt that these days men like women who can take care of themselves. There is a an old paradigm about men who work to provide his family and the wife staying at home to take care of the home and the kids. That time men are the one who responsible for the family welfare and very seldom women go to work. But those days are gone. Now more and more women go to work and achieve results. They become independent. In some cases women nowadays achieve even better positions and results than the men.

Men like independent women more because there are qualities they can get from independent woman. The first one is that they independent. That is obvious. It means the guys have the "freedom" to do their own thing without the "supervision" all the time from their women. Men have their own world when he meet with his friends or when he is occupied with his hobby or sports. A Woman in those activities just does not fit very well together. Independent also means financially independent. Men do not need to pay everything for her needs and wants, that way he can spend his money on something else. This maybe sounds simple, but this is true.

Finance means power to men and men like to have power. Full control of his power can only be satisfied with the company from an independent partner. Independent women usually have their own activities. This activities will surely improve their thoughts to be smarter, more aware for their surroundings and also have more sense of understanding for their men. How? because independent women, doing their activities will automatically improve all those potentials inside her that eventually will bring good things for both of them. But women have to cautious about this independent thing, because too independent will make a man felt not needed. When a man felt that he is no longer needed, than it is time for him to look for someone else who need him. The main thing of being an independent woman is being flexible about it.

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Men Who Seem to Like You But Don't Follow Through

He likes you.

You know he does. Your friends tell you he does. You're not imagining things.

Whenever you're together, he looks you in the eye and makes you feel like the only woman on earth. He's in tune with your favorite bands, loves the photographs you take, the poems you write. He's like no other man you've met before. You have so much in common.

Every time you go out together, it's the most magical night on earth. You sit at work replaying scenes between you. Your whole body lights up at the memory!

He's your soulmate.

But your nights together are few and between. He's a busy guy, has a demanding job, so you understand. He's popular, too, and has lots of friends, which is a good thing, right? He's well-liked.
You've made a good choice.

Except every now and then, you go on Facebook or some other networking site and see that he may be too busy to go out with you (or even drop you a line), but he's not too busy to talk to other people. He's exchanging jokes and generally having a great time.

You drop him a note: "Get together soon?"

And he writes back, "Yes, as soon as possible. I miss you!"

And you feel better. So much better. He misses you!

But then you go out with him, and you're in a crowd. You feel somewhat neglected because he's off talking to everybody in the place, except you. Everybody--guys and girls--think he's the greatest guy ever. People are lining up to do him favors.

Just when you think maybe you're crazy, that he doesn't like you as much as you hoped, he swoops in again. He gives you several hours of his full attention, and the cycle starts all over again:

-He's besotted--or he really, really seems to be
-You're absolutely besotted
-And then nothing happens

What's the deal here?

It's very possible you've fallen into the hands of a COLLECTOR, a guy who knows how to make every woman feel like the only woman in the galaxy. He's an egomaniac who gets off on having a flock of smitten female fans ("oh, but he's so tender and loving and vulnerable," you say!).

His sole aim is feel good about himself. Having a female following makes him feel like a rock star. Or a movie star. Or something else he isn't.

(Just to be fair here: There are plenty of women out there with this "complex," too.)

Thing is, you don't need it. You deserve a person who truly appreciates you for the special person you are, not for what you can do for his ego. Do yourself a favor and unplug yourself from this guy and his drama. Whenever his handsome face (and that dreamy look in his eye) float into your mind, banish them immediately.

You're disappointed, sure. But know you're not the first woman who's fallen prey to one of these phonies. Spend the next few weeks taking extra care of yourself. Talk to yourself as you would a beloved child. Treat yourself as a treasure that's yet to be discovered.

Good, healthy men respond strongly to women who love and care for themselves. You'll attract a better man before you know it.

Terry MacDonald is the happily married author of "How to Attract and Marry the Man of Your Dreams." Sign up for free dating tips at http://www.marrysmart.com - Check out her column on http://www.singlewomenrule.com

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How to Find Your Type Online

Have you ever been on a date with a woman you met online and you just didn't "feel it?"

I know I have. In fact, when I was first starting out with online dating I was getting increasingly frustrated at my inability to meet one of the "good ones." I would go on date after date with VERY attractive women only to ultimately fail at making a true, lasting connection with most of them.

Well, I knew something had to change. Was it me? Was I just not compatible with any women?
No, that couldn't be the case! After all, I had been in relationships with women before and things worked just fine. So why is it so HARD to meet the right woman from the Internet?

Well, that's when it hit me like a ton of bricks... Screening!! I'm not screening correctly. In other words, I'm not really seeing a woman for who she is in her profile. If I'm not seeing what she's really about before meeting her, then chances are, we'll have a hard time making a connection in person. I need to screen women based on their profiles before I email them. Then my results will improve!

So, I had to take a long look at myself and figure out whom I really want. What are the qualities I most admire in a woman? Was there anyone I dated in the past where things really clicked? What was she like?

Well, based on my experiences, I was able to come up with a woman who is JUST my type. She has to be attractive with dark features. OK, that's the physical stuff but there needs to be something deeper. She needs to have a certain personality type that's different from mine. She must be my opposite.

Wow, that's it!! All the women I've ever dated have been my opposite in personality type. Doesn't really make sense but that's when things worked out the best. I'm more of a quiet, analytical kind of guy. Well, I'm an engineer so that makes sense. Most of the women I've dated who I really liked were more outgoing and spontaneous. I always like a woman with a sense of adventure and creative flair. Well, then that is exactly what I need to be looking for online!

After I realized it was more about personality than anything else, I learned how to screen women in the correct way. Here I was focusing on trivial things like common interests and hobbies, when those things really didn't matter at all.

Ever gone on a date with a woman who was JUST LIKE YOU. You thought she was your soul mate because she also loved sports, Volkswagens and rock climbing but it still didn't work out??

Well, here's why. She wasn't your opposite in personality type. Opposites compliment each other and that's why they get along so well.

So, next time you go online looking for HOT babes, you need to put things like hobbies and common interests on the back burner. Unfortunately, most Internet dating sites use these things to match people, which is totally wrong. Instead, really look at her profile and determine her personality. It's not as tough as you think. Look at her writing style. Look at her pictures. If you look closely enough you will finally "see" her.

Once you become good at screening for your type, you'll become a true Internet dating master in no time!

Christophe is a recognized authority on the subject of Internet Dating with over ten years of experience. His website, internetdatingtipsformen.com, provides a wealth of informative articles, sample dating profiles, internet dating tips and tactics on everything men need to know about online dating.

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